Ok, maybe discipleship books are beyond spiritual milk

Spiritual Growth

Ok, maybe discipleship books are beyond spiritual milk

Ok, maybe discipleship books are beyond spiritual milk

Spiritual Growth:  Whose job is it to drive this in a positive direction?

I was having a discussion with my awesome dad the other day about the role of the church in a person’s spiritual development.  We had similar yet different ideas on the topic.  I could agree with his viewpoint but it just seemed…well, unexplored.  

This got me thinking about something:  Whose responsibility is it to assume spiritual formation duties? (and is it really a singular entity in charge?)

i wasn't raised on the KJB.  It's just that the boys in our family have a thing for lions!

i wasn’t raised on the KJB. It’s just that the boys in our family have a thing for lions!

In times like these I like to consult my two best advisors.  I start with the best source, the Bible, and search for relevant scriptures.  Secondarily, I will ask my good friend, Mr. Google, and see what he and his network of friends seem to think.  His response time is rather impressive which is a big bonus.  Once I’ve had some input from the (mostly) wise counsel of many others, I allow the Holy Spirit to add some personal flavor to the thought process.

Scripturally, I can see 3 very evident things about the responsibility of our spiritual formation:

  1. God  is responsible (as well as Jesus and the Holy Spirit)
  2. The church is responsible
  3. I am responsible

I’ll quote just a few numerous scriptures–by no means an exhaustive treatment of this biblical search–which support each of these 3 perspectives and then we’ll downgrade to my meager thoughts afterward.  I’ll also add some excerpts from others that I feel are healthy contributions to my discussion.  As you read these scriptures, ask yourself whether you see these as an “either/or” or an “also/and” kind of approach.

How is the Trinity involved?

 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says:

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.

Proverbs 3:5 says:

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.

2  Corinthians 3:18 says:

And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit.

Ephesians 4:7-8; 11-16 says:

But grace was given to each one of us according to the measure of Christ’s gift. 8 Therefore it says, “When he ascended on high he led a host of captives, and he gave gifts to men.”

11 And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers, 12 to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ, 13 until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ, 14 so that we may no longer be children, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes. 15 Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, 16 from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.

Acts 1:4-8 says:

And while staying with them he ordered them not to depart from Jerusalem, but to wait for the promise of the Father, which, he said, “you heard from me;for John baptized with water, but you will be baptized with the Holy Spirit not many days from now.” 6 So when they had come together, they asked him, “Lord, will you at this time restore the kingdom to Israel?” 7 He said to them, “It is not for you to know times or seasons that the Father has fixed by his own authority.But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you, and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth.”

Galatians 2:20 says:

I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

Titus 2:11-14 says:

For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works.

John 3:16-17 says:

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.

Matthew 5:48 Jesus says:

You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

Philippians 1:6-7 says:

And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ. 7 It is right for me to feel this way about you all, because I hold you in my heart, for you are all partakers with me of grace,

 2 Peter 1:3-8 says:

His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence, by which he has granted to us his precious and very great promises, so that through them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped from the corruption that is in the world because of sinful desire. For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. …

Whew!  It’s a good thing that the Trinity is supernaturally supernatural.  That sounds like a lot of work to me-But love knows no bounds!  God is love and John 17 tells us that Jesus prayed for all of us (the Church, His bride) to be united in that same kind of unity and love through a sanctifying agent of Christ’s blood and the Spirit’s empowering Presence.

It would appear to me that God is committed to our glorification through the fullness of the Trinity.  Every person of the tripartite God is committed to that ideal.  We are spirits with a body who have unfortunately allowed our flesh to run the show.  Jesus came to destroy the works of the Devil that led us down that particular road.  He then restored us to our original intended purpose of glorifying our Creator and communing with Him directly in order to maximize that purpose.


How is the church involved?

Colossians 1:9-10 says:

And so, from the day we heard, we have not ceased to pray for you, asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so as to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God.

Acts 20:28 says:

Pay careful attention to yourselves and to all the flock, in which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers, to care for the church of God, which he obtained with his own blood.

Romans 12:6-8 says:

Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching; the one who exhorts, in his exhortation; the one who contributes, in generosity; the one who leads, with zeal; the one who does acts of mercy, with cheerfulness.

Ephesians 4:11-16 says:

11 And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers, 12 to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ, 13 until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ, 14 so that we may no longer be children, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes. 15 Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, 16 from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.  

Acts 6:1-7 says:

Now in these days when the disciples were increasing in number, a complaint by the Hellenists arose against the Hebrews because their widows were being neglected in the daily distribution. 2 And the twelve summoned the full number of the disciples and said, “It is not right that we should give up preaching the word of God to serve tables. 3 Therefore, brothers, pick out from among you seven men of good repute, full of the Spirit and of wisdom, whom we will appoint to this duty. 4 But we will devote ourselves to prayer and to the ministry of the word.” 5 And what they said pleased the whole gathering, and they chose Stephen, a man full of faith and of the Holy Spirit, and Philip, and Prochorus, and Nicanor, and Timon, and Parmenas, and Nicolaus, a proselyte of Antioch. 6 These they set before the apostles, and they prayed and laid their hands on them. 7 And the word of God continued to increase, and the number of the disciples multiplied greatly in Jerusalem, and a great many of the priests became obedient to the faith.

Hebrews 5:12-14 says:

For though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you again the basic principles of the oracles of God. You need milk, not solid food, for everyone who lives on milk is unskilled in the word of righteousness, since he is a child. But solid food is for the mature, for those who have their powers of discernment trained by constant practice to distinguish good from evil.

Acts 2:42-47 says:

And they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers. 43 And awe came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were being done through the apostles. 44 And all who believed were together and had all things in common. 45 And they were selling their possessions and belongings and distributing the proceeds to all, as any had need. 46 And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts, 47 praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved.

 1 Timothy 3:1-13 says:

The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task. 2 Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife,2 sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, 3 not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. 4 He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, 5 for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church? 6 He must not be a recent convert, or he may become puffed up with conceit and fall into the condemnation of the devil. 7 Moreover, he must be well thought of by outsiders, so that he may not fall into disgrace, into a snare of the devil.

Qualifications for Deacons

8 Deacons likewise must be dignified, not double-tongued, not addicted to much wine, not greedy for dishonest gain. 9 They must hold the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience. 10 And let them also be tested first; then let them serve as deacons if they prove themselves blameless. 11 Their wives likewise must be dignified, not slanderers, but sober-minded,faithful in all things. 12 Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well. 13 For those who serve well as deacons gain a good standing for themselves and also great confidence in the faith that is in Christ Jesus.

1 Corinthians 12:4-31 says:

Now there are varieties of gifts, but the same Spirit; 5 and there are varieties of service, but the same Lord; 6 and there are varieties of activities, but it is the same God who empowers them all in everyone. 7 To each is given the manifestation of the Spirit for the common good. 8 For to one is given through the Spirit the utterance of wisdom, and to another the utterance of knowledge according to the same Spirit, 9 to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by the one Spirit, 10 to another the working of miracles, to another prophecy, to another the ability to distinguish between spirits, to another various kinds of tongues, to another the interpretation of tongues. 11 All these are empowered by one and the same Spirit, who apportions to each one individually has he wills.

12 For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. 13 For kin one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit.

14 For the body does not consist of one member but of many. 15 If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? 18 But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as he chose. 19 If all were a single member, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts, yet one body.

21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you,” nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.” 22 On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, 24 which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, 25 that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. 26 If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.

27 Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it. 28 And God has appointed in the church first apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, helping, administrating, and various kinds of tongues. 29 Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? 30 Do all possess gifts of healing? Do all speak with tongues? Do all interpret? 31 But earnestly desire the higher gifts.

So maybe we need to reframe what exactly we expect the church to do.  If you look at most church websites you will see their particular statement of faith and beliefs.  If they are marketing well, they’ll probably also mention their core values just so you can catch a transparent view of what they strive to embody in their membership.  Sadly, discipleship doesn’t often make the cut.  My hope is that the next generation will improve that percentage whatever it is.  Let’s turn to some other church responsibilities regarding spiritual formation.

Biblically, the Church has been called to represent Christ in all that we do, care for widows and orphans, demonstrate a tangible love to everyone who happens to look, hear or otherwise come into contact with us. Within the body we are to encourage one another daily and even more as we see the day drawing near.  We are called to encourage one another, pray for one another, be ongoingly filled with the Spirit, sing songs and spiritual hymns to one another.  We are tasked with shining whatever light emanates from us as a result of Christ manifesting through our gifts and talents.

That’s a high calling to respond to but the Holy Spirit is ours for the taking.  He empowers Christ to be re-presented through our thoughts and actions.  The more we engage with God, His Son and His Spirit now found inside of every believer…the more well-positioned we become to release the glory of God through our life.  That is how a believer in Christ not only seeks first the Kingdom but also releases that into their particular environment.

This is why discipleship is a healthy gauge of where the church’s priorities lie.  Churches with no formal discipleship structure or values can obviously still do great work for the Kingdom but it will happen more slowly through addition as opposed to multiplicational (that’s probably not a word but it should be!) growth.

I know I’m a little biased towards discipleship and all of it’s strengths but it really is important enough that Jesus would command His disciples to “Go and make disciples”.

Matthew 28:16-20 says:

The Great Commission

16 Then the eleven disciples went to Galilee, to the mountain where Jesus had told them to go. 17 When they saw him, they worshiped him; but some doubted. 18 Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” (emphasis my own)

I truly believe one of the greatest privileges of the church is to make discipleship a priority.  Without it a church is potentially missing a major engine towards expanding the kingdom.  A Christian organization that draws followers to it will naturally begin reproducing it’s own passions into the lives of others.  These individuals are often seeking a passion–any passion–to inspire them to serve the kingdom (through pastoring, teaching, prophesying, serving, etc.) and those who haven’t yet entered it (through evangelism, service and prophesying).  So if we are not energetically equipping our church members with love-centered spiritual tools, then we run the risk of developing a lethargic, consumer-based church that gathers more than it sends out.  

From a leadership standpoint that’s what happens when a church leader is the head of the church rather than Jesus being placed in that position of authority.  A few major megachurches have struggled recently because of moral failure at the top.  If your church leadership looks like a pyramid rather than an upside down pyramid, you could be facing the same problem.  Jesus laid down his life for the church and husbands are called to do the same for our wife out of utter sacrificial love for her.

In that kind of setting, the church will struggle as the leadership struggles.  The church has a meltdown when the leader has a spiritual slip-up because he has potentially set himself up to be the model for spiritual strength even though he points to Jesus in his preaching or church service.  But when a church leader strives to lead from the back even though he’s positioned at the front, a church becomes uniformly strong and can withstand the turbulent seasons that many churches go through.  If he leaves or needs to step away for awhile, there has been ample time for others to step up and lead.  In the corporate world we call that succession planning.  Jesus finalized his succession planning in Acts 1:1-11

In the first book, O Theophilus, I have dealt with all that Jesus began to do and teach, until the day when he was taken up, after he had given commands through the Holy Spirit to the apostles whom he had chosen. He presented himself alive to them after his suffering by many proofs, appearing to them during forty days and speaking about the kingdom of God.
And while staying with them he ordered them not to depart from Jerusalem, but to wait for the promise of the Father, which, he said, “you heard from me; for John baptized with water, but you will be baptized with the Holy Spirit not many days from now.”
So when they had come together, they asked him, “Lord, will you at this time restore the kingdom to Israel?” He said to them, “It is not for you to know times or seasons that the Father has fixed by his own authority. But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you, and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth.” And when he had said these things, as they were looking on, he was lifted up, and a cloud took him out of their sight. And while they were gazing into heaven as he went, behold, two men stood by them in white robes, and said, “Men of Galilee, why do you stand looking into heaven? This Jesus, who was taken up from you into heaven, will come in the same way as you saw him go into heaven.

Servant based leadership is the buzzword in corporate leadership circles.  It’s unfortunate when that isn’t the case in church leadership circles.  Jesus delivered his last servant leadership speech before He ascended into Heaven.  That concept was not born in corporate America.  It was pioneered by Jesus, the master discipler.

I grew up in bible-focused, non-denominational church.  I went to church 2x on sunday, in addition to a bible class after church and an additional midweek class and service.  In a way that was discipleship.  The more I got exposed to Christian values and teachings, the more spiritual I was supposed to become…I suppose.  I think this is where the doctrinal beliefs became very substantial without necessarily instilling a deep desire to follow Jesus and obey His commands wholeheartedly.

Nowadays it’s much more common for churches to meet once on sunday and some other time during the week if you’re involved with a small group.  I guess that reduces the potential of becoming doctrinally biased (which can create religious barriers more than it facilitates interdenominational unity) but unfortunately it also reduces the opportunities for true discipleship.  But let’s move on.

Church Activities vs Spiritual Activity

In 2007, Willowcreek church (often polled as America’s most influential church and has an average attendance of 24,000 people per weekend) researched the effectiveness of its approach to spiritual formation and found some disconcerting news.  The results were discussed in the book, “Reveal”, in 2007.  I remember being at a leadership conference here in Dallas that year when they were streaming live from Willowcreek and broadcasting throughout the U.S. and mentioning the landmark findings that were now available for all to read about.  I immediately went and purchased the book in the lobby as well as the follow-up book in 2011, “Move”, which described how the research was evolving as numerous other churches were evaluating their approach to spiritual formation.  I remember taking feverish notes as well as noting my own response to what the authors found.  Below is another Christian blogger’s response to what they took away from these books.

Tony Morgan wrote this very accurate summary back in 2012: (my emphasis in red)

12 Reasons Why Your Church Doesn’t Produce Spiritual Growth

  1. You focus more on Bible teaching than Bible engagement. – “We learned that the most effective strategy for moving people forward in their journey of faith is biblical engagement. Not just getting people into the Bible when they’re in church—which we do quite well—but helping them engage the Bible on their own outside of church.”
  2. You haven’t developed a pathway of focused first steps. – “Instead of offering up a wide-ranging menu of ministry opportunities to newcomers, best-practice churches promote and provide a high-impact, nonnegotiable pathway of focused first steps—a pathway designed specifically to jumpstart a spiritual experience that gets people moving toward a Christ-centered life.”
  3. You’re more concerned about activity than growth. – “Increased church activity does not lead to spiritual growth.”
  4. You haven’t clarified the church’s role. – “Because—whether inadvertently or intentionally—these churches have communicated to their people that, no matter where they are on their spiritual journey, the role of the church is to be their central source of spiritual expertise and experience. As a result, even as people mature in their beliefs and embrace personal spiritual practices as part of their daily routines, their expectation is that it will be the church, not their own initiative, that will feed their spiritual hunger.
  5. You’re focused more on small groups than serving. – “Serving experiences appear to be even more significant to spiritual development than organized small groups.
  6. You’re not challenging people to reflect on Scripture – “If they could do only one thing to help people at all levels of spiritual maturity grow in their relationship with Christ, their choice would be equally clear. They would inspire, encourage, and equip their people to read the Bible—specifically, to reflect on Scripture for meaning in their lives.
  7. You’re unwilling to admit that more is not better. – “Based on findings from the most effective churches, however, this ‘more is better’ way of thinking is not the best route for people who are new to a church, and it is particularly unsuitable for people who are taking their first steps to explore the Christian faith… Instead of offering a ministry buffet with multiple tempting choices of activities and studies, these churches make one singular pathway a virtual prerequisite for membership and full engagement with the church.
  8. You haven’t raised the bar. – “Too many churches are satisfied to have congregations filled with people who say they ‘belong’ to their church—who attend faithfully and are willing to serve or make a donation now and then. But that belonging bar is not high enough; simply belonging doesn’t get the job done for Jesus.”
  9. You’ve created a church staff dependency. – “Taking too much responsibility for others’ spiritual growth fostered an unhealthy dependence of congregants on the church staff.
  10. You believe that small groups are the solution to spiritual formation. – “Based on the churches we have studied, including our own, there is no evidence that getting 100 percent of a congregation into small groups is an effective spiritual formation strategy.”
  11. You focus on what people should do rather than who people should become. – “Unfortunately, churches often make things harder still by obscuring the goal—to become more like Christ—with a complicated assortment of activities. For instance, encouraging people to: Attend teaching and worship services every week. Meet frequently with small community and Bible study groups (often requiring follow-up communications and homework). Serve the church a couple times a month. Serve those who are underresourced on a regular basis. Invite friends, coworkers, and family to church, special events, support groups, etc. When the church incessantly promotes all the things people should do, it’s very easy for them to lose sight of the real goal—which is who they should become.”
  12. You aren’t helping people surrender their lives to Jesus. – “Spiritual growth is not driven or determined by activities; it is defined by a growing relationship with Christ. So the goal is not to launch people into an assortment of ministry activities; it is to launch them on a quest to embrace and surrender their lives to Jesus.
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How am I involved?

1 Corinthians 13:2 says:

And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.

John 14:21 says:

Those who obey my commandments are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them, and I will love them. And I will reveal myself to each one of them.

1Peter 2:1-5 says:

So put away all malice and all deceit and hypocrisy and envy and all slander. Like newborn infants, long for the pure spiritual milk, that by it you may grow up into salvation— if indeed you have tasted that the Lord is good.
As you come to him, a living stone rejected by men but in the sight of God chosen and precious, you yourselves like living stones are being built up as a spiritual house, to be a holy priesthood, to offer spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ.

Hebrews 6:1-2 says:

Therefore let us leave the elementary doctrine of Christ and go on to maturity, not laying again a foundation of repentance from dead works and of faith toward God, and of instruction about washings, the laying on of hands, the resurrection of the dead, and eternal judgment.

Matthew 5:6 says:

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousnes, for they shall be satisfied.

Hosea 4:6 says:

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge; because you have rejected knowledge, I reject you from being a priest to me. And since you have forgotten the law of your God, I also will forget your children.

Hebrews 5:12-14 says:

For though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you again the basic principles of the oracles of God. You need milk, not solid food, for everyone who lives on milk is unskilled in the word of righteousness, since he is a child. But solid food is for the mature, for those who have their powers of discernment trained by constant practice to distinguish good from evil.

Matthew 6:33 Jesus says:

But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

2 Peter 1:5-8 says:

For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they keep you from being ineffective or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Carey Nieuwhof said this:

People think the church is responsible for their spiritual growth.  People leave churches because they’re not growing. But whose responsibility is growth? Theirs. Yours. Mine. Why is it that people who say they are most passionate about maturity blame others for their lack of maturity? I just don’t get that. Isn’t responsibility a sign of maturity?

For sure, the church can help. In the same way a gym can help you get fit, a friend can help you through a tough time. But you are responsible for getting in shape, for getting better and even for your personal and spiritual growth.

I appreciate Carey’s perspective and he’s correct in his assertion–but you can’t apply a one-size-fits-all label to believers.  We’re all in process even when we’ve spent our entire life following Jesus.  But if Carey worked in an athletic club or gym for as long as I have, he might retract that metaphor and even develop a different mindset.  As Tony Morgan mentioned in his book summary points, being Christ-centered and SELF-SUFFICIENT (don’t need others to help us pray, worship or read the Word) in our pursuit of a holy lifestyle is the goal.  But it most certainly is not the starting point.  I couldn’t have a clearer picture of that through what I’ve observed over all my years as a strength & conditioning coach and personal trainer.

If we were to make a fitness continuum and designate garage gyms on one end and spa resort exercise rooms on the other end, we would have to create some sort of language to define why one is better than the other.  In the garage scenario, you are on your own with limited space and funds for gym equipment but you’re absolutely free to do as you like.  You likely won’t have a spotter to ensure your safety.  You’ll have no one to critique and fine tune your form.  Eventually you can outfit your space with expensive stuff but you’re still limited by space which ultimately means you’re still working with limited fitness resources.  Here’s an example of the garage scenario:

On the other end of the spectrum we have athletic clubs that are designed to cater to people who want an experience when they work out, not just a sweaty couples skate with the treadmill.  They want steamed towels with mint fragrance.  They want a massage therapist available.  They want highly trained fitness experts who didn’t just breeze through a weekend fitness course.  They want someone to memorize their name at the front desk who remembers the names of their children.  You get the picture.

One of the places I take my personal training students to visit is Equinox Fitness Clubs.  My students are always in awe of what they see because they realize they could work in a place like that if they studied hard and developed a professional and servant leadership style of work ethic.  (Those were the kinds of clubs I spent the majority of my career learning and working in so I appreciate what they taught me about the service industry.)  Here’s a typical example of what the newer Equinox clubs look like.

This example is not just about a ritzy club membership.  It’s about an organization striving to provide an incredibly valuable experience intended to assist their members in developing a fulfilling and rewarding level of physical and emotional health.

Visualize this scenario.  A newcomer shows up at the gym ready to embark on a new health plan.  They have absolutely no idea how to do it or where to start but they know the experts there will surely provide some kind of guidance.  After all, everyone at the gym is an expert…right?!

They come and take a tour and find out that every member gets a free training session which sounds really good.  Unfortunately, they never get around to scheduling that free session so they end up just winging it.  That usually means playing around with machines and trying to figure out how they work.  It means they set the exercise level on the cardio equipment way too low.  They lift weights that are too light.  Or maybe they put too much weight on it and do it incorrectly.  How common is that you might ask?  Here’s just a tiny portion of things that happen to people when they don’t have expert help or adequate personal knowledge to do things safely on their own.  I wish this was just a funny joke but it’s an every day and all day occurrence in many gyms worldwide.

I would absolutely LOVE to assume that every person who chooses to exercise also chooses to research the best methods to exercise and is truly aware of how it is “their responsibility” to get in shape, stay motivated and always stay disciplined in their eating, sleeping and stress management habits.  (I see you already rolling your eyes at me!)

Listen!  I can’t even get my fitness students to do all that research, workout and eat disciplined and their paying our school a few thousand dollars to be there.  What makes you think that the average person juggling work, a family life and little time for personal development should “be responsible for their own commitment”.  This isn’t just about friends helping out a little bit.

Spiritually speaking, how is that applicable here?

There are passionate church staff members, elders/deacons and other passionate lay leaders who are more than willing to help foster the spiritual formation of others.  Jesus called it discipleship but we won’t beat a dead horse.  There are many churches out there who haven’t figured out how to make a space for these lay leaders to step up and get involved.  Church staffs are already overwhelmed with maintaining their  church duties, pastoral support, speaking engagements, teaching preparation, weekend church service planning, etc.

How are they supposed to find the time to spend with members to facilitate spiritual growth?  There’s the big question that many churches are struggling to answer.

This often leaves church members (again, as stated in the MOVE book) relying too heavily on their church leadership to do all the spiritual development.  In many cases, this leads to disgruntled members church hopping until they can find a church that serves up the right spiritual food.  Not too hot…not too cold…perfectly warm just the way they like it.

This happens for numerous reasons either because they’ve been taught not to think apart from what the church has told them or because they erroneously consider the current emotional feelings they are experiencing compared to other previous emotional experiences and judge one to be more lacking and therefore wrong.  The latter definitely leads to an unsatisfactory church experience.

Without realizing it, a person who experiences a lack of friendliness, legitimate connections with other members or an incessant lack of being challenged by church leadership/small group involvement can grow restless without realizing how to change things.

Exposure to the “living and active Word” (the Bible) may stir one person and not another who is not interested in responding to what scripture invites them to participate in.  This is why Paul exhorted us not to “give up meeting together” (Heb 10:25).  However, if the place in which we are meeting together is stifling our spiritual needs, we should pray about it and seek counsel from others in order to make a decision to move on.  

There’s no formula here because selfish motivation can influence us to move for the wrong answers.  Again, I’m not creating a black/white answer.  Rather, I’m trying to illuminate a discussion that could lead to insight into our motivations for personal decision-making regarding our spiritual formation.

Personality bias also plays a big role in making judgments about a particular subject.  Introverted people, for example, would prefer an individual approach to spiritual maturity over a group-centered learning environment.  Extraverted people would struggle with a more individualistic approach to spiritual maturity and this is something an introverted person would not deeply consider before expressing a strong opinion.  This goes both ways so neither should claim exclusive bragging rights to “the truth”.


So Now What?

My original question centered on a seemingly innocent question:  Who’s responsible for spiritual growth of the Believer?  Is it God?  The Church?  Me?

I don’t agree with the notion that it’s solely on the individual to come up with their own strategy for spiritual growth.  On the other hand, I think it’s wrong for a church leadership to attach a tether to each member so that they never feel equipped enough or empowered enough to initiate their own ministry efforts.  As much as I love continuums, there really is no better way to assess where people are versus where they would like to end up.  

Stages of Spiritual Growth

Stages of Spiritual Growth

The most concise goal should be to lead people inward and eventually train them to go outward.  More accurately stated, it starts with a better understanding of the Word, a more intimate relationship with the Trinity, an updated clarification on who I am in Christ and a subsequently growing desire to live in a way that mirrors Jesus and impacts others who observe my words and actions.

Thanks for surviving the length of this article but I hope it stimulated some personal thoughts on how you view spiritual growth.  Feel free to contact with me with any questions or concerns.



An Inheritance that truly matters.

Inheritance – what it really is and why it matters.

money_InheritanceMy wife and I attended Dave Ramsey’s EntreLeadership (link) conference at the end of March (’14). It was a one-day event that summarizes what their leadership mastery series in Nashville covers. Dave and his team of 400 people have built a financial empire that seeks to empower people to become both leaders & entrepreneurs, thus the name. Since leadership is at the heart of my work with empowering people, I jumped at the opportunity to attend this conference with my wife. Much of what he said was your typical leadership-speak but there was a very unique twist that Dave and his family have developed and it centers on the idea of creating a legacy. Not only that but the idea of starting a business that can be handed down to your family was a major discussing during the event.

One of Dave’s executive team members, Chris Hogan, started the morning with a brief discussion of one of the more widely used work personality tests, DISC personality assessment. It’s one of many programs out there to help large teams to function more cohesively and efficiently. It was interesting to note that my wife and I are extreme opposites, which speaks volumes to why my wife is superb at handling my weaker areas and vice versa. Although I use the MBTI daily, I hadn’t really had an opportunity to see my wife at work in her leadership roles (DISC is easier to implement and dialogue with individuals unfamiliar with personality testing). Instead I’ve been slowly exposed to them over the years which can make for some fun (and not so fun) “growing” experiencing as a team.

Next, Dave and his middle daughter, who co-wrote their book on this subject, started discussing the focus of becoming a family-oriented entrepreneurship. This was an idea that really began to pique my interest because the idea of passing great leadership skills to our children is and has been very close to my heart. My wife and I read to our daughter before she was born and our son will have had the same experience. We followed Dave’s Financial Peace University tenets and eliminated unneeded debt. It was fantastic and extremely valuable to our family’s future. We look forward to teaching our children how to avoid financial issues as well as instilling a voracious appetite for hard work and achievement…and the fulfillment that goes along with it.

So what is inheritance?

passing our strength to the next generation

passing our strength to the next generation

The bible was my primary written source of education outside of Dr. Seuss, mythology (don’t ask where I became fascinated with Greek, Roman and Norse mythology) and The Chronicles of Narnia during my younger years. There were numerous stories of parents leaving the fruit of their labor to be enjoyed (David), continued (Jacob), or sadly wasted (Esau) by future generations. Growing up the grandson of a full-time preacher and son of college students, I can tell you that I did not start my life financially wealthy.

However, I started with something much better. I had an amazing spiritual and educational legacy that helped me find an important identity as well as have a high self esteem that carried into helping others around me. It can be easy to have a narrow-minded perspective that inheritance speaks of monetary wealth being passed from parent to child. However, the very notion of leadership implies passing your traits (hopefully a lot of strengths and few weaknesses) onto and into those who follow you…familial or not. My career has focused on the broader sense of this idea.

My job for over 2 decades has been to acquire information, wisdom and insight regarding the strengthening of people. I have done that both professionally and voluntarily. As long as dysfunction and apathy plague our world, I will continue to champion ideas and strategies to help the world become a haven for constructive teamwork, unconditional love for our fellow man and an unquenchable desire to manifest the Kingdom of God through our talents and gifts.

Why is Inheritance important?

Dave commented during the conference that he believes the American economic crisis would solve itself if we equipped future generations with the financial concepts he espouses. Rather than borrow money incessantly, our children should focus on (legally) creating their own streams of financial resources through empowerment and education while maintaining a controlled amount of spending to achieve a particular goal. This is why parental support of the educational system is so vital to the future of our kids. Teachers need parents to be involved with supporting and reinforcing the learning strategies they present your kids in class. This means that parents need a strong awareness of how to support the child’s learning structure. 99% of parents want what’s best for their children.

If this is true for you as well, I exhort you to ascribe to some sort of plan to:

1)             Assess the nature of your proposed inheritance

2)             Implement this course of action over a period of years

3)             Review and re-assess the results of your plan annually I have written about this “bookend” approach to achieving results in previous posts.


It’s never too late to change your life!

Let’s look at a biblical text from Ezekiel 18: “Now suppose this man fathers a son who sees all the sins that his father has done; he sees, and does not do likewise: he does not eat upon the mountains or lift up his eyes to the idols of the house of Israel, does not defile his neighbor’s wife, does not oppress anyone, exacts no pledge, commits no robbery, but gives his bread to the hungry and covers the naked with a garment, withholds his hand from iniquity, takes no interest or profit, obeys my rules, and walks in my statutes; he shall not die for his father’s iniquity; he shall surely live. As for his father, because he practiced extortion, robbed his brother, and did what is not good among his people, behold, he shall die for his iniquity. “Yet you say, ‘Why should not the son suffer for the iniquity of the father? ’ When the son has done what is just and right, and has been careful to observe all my statutes, he shall surely live. The soul who sins shall die. The son shall not suffer for the iniquity of the father, nor the father suffer for the iniquity of the son. The righteousness of the righteous shall be upon himself, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon himself. “But if a wicked person turns away from all his sins that he has committed and keeps all my statutes and does what is just and right, he shall surely live; he shall not die. None of the transgressions that he has committed shall be remembered against him; for the righteousness that he has done he shall live. Have I any pleasure in the death of the wicked, declares the Lord God, and not rather that he should turn from his way and live.

I LOVE THIS! We don’t have to wallow in our negative circumstances and expect scarcity for our future generations. Repentance is a complete turning away from things we used to engage in. I have watched thousands of people in my career turn away from things that were destructive. It’s one of the greatest privileges I get to experience when someone let’s go of a negative past and assumes their “place at the table” when they reach for higher goals and circumstances. Athletes. Addicts. Bankrupted. Broke. Broken-hearted. There are still 24 letters left to go…but I’m sure you can find yourself somewhere in this list. Everyone is invited to the feast of freedom in Christ. Don’t let despair cause you to give up on your dreams as well as the dreams of your children. Find a supportive community and helpful resources to pinpoint where you can make positive changes.

If we can help you discover those strategies, don’t hesitate to contact us here at LeadershipDude.com.